In recent years there has been a significant increase in the rates of divorce among both Emirati and expatriate couples. Data from the Dubai Courts shows that between 2009 and 2011, the number of divorce cases increased by 40 per cent for expatriate couples and seven per cent for Emirati couples.
The financial downturn and the changing role of women in society are believed to have contributed to this increase. For some expatriates, the massive changes brought on by life in another country - away from the support networks of home - can prove too hard.
Although relationship counsellors are seeing increasing numbers of people, social stigma still blights couples who seek out counselling for their problems; seeking such help beyond the family has always been a sensitive subject, particularly for locals.
Though many of the problems that couples face are universal - whether that be arguing, a lack of emotional support or simply a relationship becoming stale - the relationship and life coach Evelyn Heffermehl says one issue is characteristic of her work in Dubai: arranged marriages. Not only does this affect Emiratis but many of her Indian clients as well.
"It's different when you help these couples because you're not working on going back to the place they were at before, like other couples," she says. "They don't have that base to go back to."
Her Emirati clients tend to come alone, she says, because of the taboo against sharing intimate issues such as family relationships with those outside the family. Many of those who come to her do so through recommendations: "There is an element of trust involved."
Keith Swan, a relationship counsellor at Lifeworks Dubai, says: "Everyone brings their own family or cultural background into a relationship." Whether the relationship involves people from different backgrounds or from the same culture, this plays a strong role. "Perhaps you're from a culture where you don't seek help until it's too late and you're just signing the divorce papers," he says. "Also, the involvement of the extended family in some cultures can put an added pressure, as the relationship is no longer private when the whole family is involved."
Heffermehl says that men are more willing to attend a coaching session than counselling. "They feel it seems less like they have something wrong with them than if they go to counselling," she explains. "Coaching is more about looking at and exploring the relationship. It's a process of discovery of the relationship and knowing what the couple wants to create together."
The act of moving to the UAE also has its impact on couples, says Swan. "For a lot of people, the move here can be a massive problem," he says. "They've left all their support, their friends and family. They come for the finance, the opportunity - and often it's the first time they've been away from home. Men think they're here for the family but while they're at work, the family is falling apart." He says the commitment to working through the problems can be far more challenging here than with the safety net of home.
"The toll of driving to Abu Dhabi every day or the fact they're expected to be in the office until 7pm or 8pm comes at a price. The two big things that take a toll here are relationships and health."
Bringing children up as expatriates also challenges some couples, says Swan. "People can get sucked into the Dubai way of doing things," he adds. "How to bring kids up can always be a big point of total disagreement but out here it's different again. A lot of parents have hired help, many say they have to do things which cost money because of the weather, rather than kids being able to simply play outside."
Ultimately, a counsellor can never fix a relationship, he says. "From the sessions, some people realise they just can't be with their partner. It's more about clarifying what the people want and need."
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HOW DO SIM CARD SCAMS WORK?
Sim swap frauds are a form of identity theft.
They involve criminals conning mobile phone operators into issuing them with replacement Sim cards, often by claiming their phone has been lost or stolen
They use the victim's personal details - obtained through criminal methods - to convince such companies of their identity.
The criminal can then access any online service that requires security codes to be sent to a user's mobile phone, such as banking services.
Earth under attack: Cosmic impacts throughout history
- 4.5 billion years ago: Mars-sized object smashes into the newly-formed Earth, creating debris that coalesces to form the Moon
- 66 million years ago: 10km-wide asteroid crashes into the Gulf of Mexico, wiping out over 70 per cent of living species – including the dinosaurs.
- 50,000 years ago: 50m-wide iron meteor crashes in Arizona with the violence of 10 megatonne hydrogen bomb, creating the famous 1.2km-wide Barringer Crater
- 1490: Meteor storm over Shansi Province, north-east China when large stones “fell like rain”, reportedly leading to thousands of deaths.
- 1908: 100-metre meteor from the Taurid Complex explodes near the Tunguska river in Siberia with the force of 1,000 Hiroshima-type bombs, devastating 2,000 square kilometres of forest.
- 1998: Comet Shoemaker-Levy 9 breaks apart and crashes into Jupiter in series of impacts that would have annihilated life on Earth.
-2013: 10,000-tonne meteor burns up over the southern Urals region of Russia, releasing a pressure blast and flash that left over 1600 people injured.
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Stars: Nadine Labaki, Ziad Bakri, Zain Al Rafeea, Riman Al Rafeea
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Farasan Boat: 128km Away from Anchorage
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Stars: Abdulaziz Almadhi, Mohammed Al Akkasi, Ali Al Suhaibani
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Basquiat in Abu Dhabi
One of Basquiat’s paintings, the vibrant Cabra (1981–82), now hangs in Louvre Abu Dhabi temporarily, on loan from the Guggenheim Abu Dhabi.
The latter museum is not open physically, but has assembled a collection and puts together a series of events called Talking Art, such as this discussion, moderated by writer Chaedria LaBouvier.
It's something of a Basquiat season in Abu Dhabi at the moment. Last week, The Radiant Child, a documentary on Basquiat was shown at Manarat Al Saadiyat, and tonight (April 18) the Guggenheim Abu Dhabi is throwing the re-creation of a party tonight, of the legendary Canal Zone party thrown in 1979, which epitomised the collaborative scene of the time. It was at Canal Zone that Basquiat met prominent members of the art world and moved from unknown graffiti artist into someone in the spotlight.
“We’ve invited local resident arists, we’ll have spray cans at the ready,” says curator Maisa Al Qassemi of the Guggenheim Abu Dhabi.
Guggenheim Abu Dhabi's Canal Zone Remix is at Manarat Al Saadiyat, Thursday April 18, from 8pm. Free entry to all. Basquiat's Cabra is on view at Louvre Abu Dhabi until October
A timeline of the Historical Dictionary of the Arabic Language
- 2018: Formal work begins
- November 2021: First 17 volumes launched
- November 2022: Additional 19 volumes released
- October 2023: Another 31 volumes released
- November 2024: All 127 volumes completed
What is double taxation?
- Americans living abroad file taxes with the Internal Revenue Service, which can cost hundreds of dollars to complete even though about 60 per cent do not owe taxes, according to the Taxpayer Advocate Service
- Those obligations apply to millions of Americans residing overseas – estimates range from 3.9 million to 5.5 million – including so-called "accidental Americans" who are unaware they hold dual citizenship
- The double taxation policy has been a contentious issue for decades, with many overseas Americans feeling that it punishes them for pursuing opportunities abroad
- Unlike most countries, the US follows a citizenship-based taxation system, meaning that Americans must file taxes annually, even if they do not earn any income in the US.
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It is named after actress and singer Jane Birkin
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Where to stay: Courtyard by Marriott Titusville Kennedy Space Centre has unparalleled views of the Indian River. Alligators can be spotted from hotel room balconies, as can several rocket launch sites. The hotel also boasts cool space-themed decor.
When to go: Florida is best experienced during the winter months, from November to May, before the humidity kicks in.
How to get there: Emirates currently flies from Dubai to Orlando five times a week.
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