I spent a lot of time last week dwelling on the importance of telling my daughter she is beautiful. I’ve had long discussions with Mr T explaining to him why it’s so important, for the purposes of self-esteem, for Baby A to constantly receive positive affirmations from us. I used this very space, just a week ago, to outline my reasons for disagreeing with the viral campaigns that have been spreading a message I find illogical: telling a young girl she’s pretty causes more harm than good.
Then, just a few days ago, I took Baby A with me to the hair salon. I finally found a few hours’ respite so I could dye the premature grey that has eaten away at my self-esteem, slowly but surely, for the past decade. While there, Baby A did us all a favour and napped in her stroller.
She woke up just as my hairdresser was putting the finishing touches to hair that looked nothing like my usual catastrophe. And the first thing she said was, “Wow, Mama! Hair preeeeetty! Alana touch?”
The first time my daughter told me I was pretty, it was like a punch to the stomach. I was wearing a dress, after having spent what felt like months in old yoga trousers. She caressed my dress and cocked her head to the side and said: “Pretty, Mama.”
My usual reaction to a compliment is to ask: “Are you sure I look OK? Don’t I look fat?”
But I couldn’t do that in the face of my daughter’s loving worship.
I couldn’t let her see me curl my lips in displeasure at my reflection every time I was faced with a mirror.
Instead, when she tells me I’m pretty, I hug her and say: “Thank you”.
And, just a few days ago, when she woke up from her nap to see my changed hair and the pleased expression I had on my face because I had taken a little bit of time in the day to care for my appearance, when she guilelessly told me I was pretty, I realised that it wasn’t enough for me to tell my daughter she’s beautiful.
I had to tell her that I thought I was beautiful, as well, and I had to make sure she was hearing me and seeing me love myself.
It’s easy to tell her she’s beautiful. It’s so much more difficult to tell myself – and her – that I am beautiful. I am tired and exhausted. I have scars. My skin sags. I am mired down in these ugly criticisms of myself and, as she grows, this is what she will think becoming a woman is about.
And then one day, she will look at herself in the mirror and no matter how much I’ve told her she’s beautiful, she will instead see herself as ugly, because her mother did the same. She will hate her hair, like her mother did, and hate her tummy, like her mother did. I can’t let that happen.
Instead, I agree with her that Mama is pretty, and she giggles in delight that I believe it, that I believe her. She doesn’t doubt my beauty, so why should I?
It’s one of the hardest things I have ever had to do as a girl, as a woman, as a mother – but telling myself I am beautiful has to happen. I will ease into it by seeing myself through my daughter’s eyes. I owe her that much.
Hala Khalaf is a freelance journalist living in Abu Dhabi
JAPAN SQUAD
Goalkeepers: Masaaki Higashiguchi, Shuichi Gonda, Daniel Schmidt
Defenders: Yuto Nagatomo, Tomoaki Makino, Maya Yoshida, Sho Sasaki, Hiroki Sakai, Sei Muroya, Genta Miura, Takehiro Tomiyasu
Midfielders: Toshihiro Aoyama, Genki Haraguchi, Gaku Shibasaki, Wataru Endo, Junya Ito, Shoya Nakajima, Takumi Minamino, Hidemasa Morita, Ritsu Doan
Forwards: Yuya Osako, Takuma Asano, Koya Kitagawa
The specs: 2019 Mercedes-Benz C200 Coupe
Price, base: Dh201,153
Engine: 2.0-litre turbocharged four-cylinder
Transmission: Nine-speed automatic
Power: 204hp @ 5,800rpm
Torque: 300Nm @ 1,600rpm
Fuel economy, combined: 6.7L / 100km
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Under-21 European Championship Final
Germany 1 Spain 0
Weiser (40')
What is the definition of an SME?
SMEs in the UAE are defined by the number of employees, annual turnover and sector. For example, a “small company” in the services industry has six to 50 employees with a turnover of more than Dh2 million up to Dh20m, while in the manufacturing industry the requirements are 10 to 100 employees with a turnover of more than Dh3m up to Dh50m, according to Dubai SME, an agency of the Department of Economic Development.
A “medium-sized company” can either have staff of 51 to 200 employees or 101 to 250 employees, and a turnover less than or equal to Dh200m or Dh250m, again depending on whether the business is in the trading, manufacturing or services sectors.
ENGLAND WORLD CUP SQUAD
Eoin Morgan (captain), Moeen Ali, Jonny Bairstow, Jos Buttler (wicketkeeper), Tom Curran, Joe Denly, Alex Hales, Liam Plunkett, Adil Rashid, Joe Root, Jason Roy, Ben Stokes, David Willey, Chris Woakes, Mark Wood
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MATCH INFO
Uefa Champions League semi-final, first leg
Barcelona v Liverpool, Wednesday, 11pm (UAE).
Second leg
Liverpool v Barcelona, Tuesday, May 7, 11pm
Games on BeIN Sports
How Beautiful this world is!
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THE SPECS
Engine: 3.6-litre V6
Transmission: eight-speed automatic
Power: 285bhp
Torque: 353Nm
Price: TBA
On sale: Q2, 2020
IF YOU GO
The flights: FlyDubai offers direct flights to Catania Airport from Dubai International Terminal 2 daily with return fares starting from Dh1,895.
The details: Access to the 2,900-metre elevation point at Mount Etna by cable car and 4x4 transport vehicle cost around €57.50 (Dh248) per adult. Entry into Teatro Greco costs €10 (Dh43). For more go to www.visitsicily.info
Where to stay: Hilton Giardini Naxos offers beachfront access and accessible to Taormina and Mount Etna. Rooms start from around €130 (Dh561) per night, including taxes.
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Sonchiriya
Director: Abhishek Chaubey
Producer: RSVP Movies, Azure Entertainment
Cast: Sushant Singh Rajput, Manoj Bajpayee, Ashutosh Rana, Bhumi Pednekar, Ranvir Shorey
Rating: 3/5
Pari
Produced by: Clean Slate Films (Anushka Sharma, Karnesh Sharma) & KriArj Entertainment
Director: Prosit Roy
Starring: Anushka Sharma, Parambrata Chattopadhyay, Ritabhari Chakraborty, Rajat Kapoor, Mansi Multani
Three stars
The biog
Favourite pet: cats. She has two: Eva and Bito
Favourite city: Cape Town, South Africa
Hobby: Running. "I like to think I’m artsy but I’m not".
Favourite move: Romantic comedies, specifically Return to me. "I cry every time".
Favourite spot in Abu Dhabi: Saadiyat beach
New Zealand 21 British & Irish Lions 24
New Zealand
Penalties: Barrett (7)
British & Irish Lions
Tries: Faletau, Murray
Penalties: Farrell (4)
Conversions: Farrell
Contracted list
Ashton Agar, Alex Carey, Pat Cummins, Aaron Finch, Peter Handscomb, Josh Hazlewood, Travis Head, Usman Khawaja, Nathan Lyon, Glenn Maxwell, Shaun Marsh, Mitchell Marsh, Tim Paine, Matt Renshaw, Jhye Richardson, Kane Richardson, Billy Stanlake, Mitchell Starc, Marcus Stoinis, Andrew Tye.
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Match info:
Manchester City 2
Sterling (8'), Walker (52')
Newcastle United 1
Yedlin (30')
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